Posted by: Schuyler R. Thorpe | February 14, 2014

Descriptive Sex And Porn Sex

lesbiansFor the record, I think people too often confuse porn with sex–when reading about it in a novel. From their stand point, if it takes longer than one chapter to bump and grind with your characters, then the writer (author) is on some sick and twisted porn kick just to get his or her jollies off in a bad way.

Forget the fact that some sex scenes take longer than three whole paragraphs to properly conclude themselves.

Or maybe it’s not porn at all, but really deep, really emotional sex that doesn’t derive the usual obvious trigger phrases, sentences, or words which would classify it as such.

See, this is the problem people have. They can’t tell the fucking difference. 

To them, literary sex has to be written according to a set number of rules and regulations which forbids the writer from exploring their characters’ own innate sexuality. Everything has to be fucking scripted to read like the following: “He stuck his giant hot throbbing flesh rod of passion into her wet, sopping vaginal entrance–leaving her begging and wanting for more of the delicious pounding and hard pistoning that dragged her into this situation in the first place.” (See, I can also write stupidly too. It’s not that hard to do.)

Porn sex is where we see, hear, or read various lines of mental stimulation designed to excite us at the primal level. It activates our need to spank the monkey, pet the kitty, and be various drooling imbeciles while fantasizing that we are those people partaking in these lewd acts which reality has yet to fashion us into physical existence.

There’s simply nothing left to the imagination on either one–because both examples are so common in today’s literature that there is no real difference.

But when you start writing descriptive sex–where everything plays out like a movie inside your head where you’re writing down what you see in solicit detail–while playing on the emotional and physical elements?

Holy shit, people! I think someone out there is going to fucking cry!

But the sad thing about the latter, is that some people (yes, you the reader) can’t tell the difference. You see porn wherever you go. To you, it makes no difference how lavishly it is written. Because if you see the words cock, dick, pussy, cunt and other words thrown in, it has to be porn.

(I’m sorry, did you also want me to say penis and vagina too? Heaven knows that is not the least bit pornographic, right? Right.)

You can’t–for a second–view the writing of sex acts as anything but. You can’t wrap your minuscule minds around the possibility that acts of passion and emotional sex that doesn’t use specific words isn’t porn. Because if your female partner is sucking your male partner off (in your novel), then Heaven’s to Betsy…! IT’S PORN!

Forget all the pretty and flowery words which preceded the act itself as a catalyst for the moment when the writer decided to ease your sorry asses into being (into this story) and gradually upped the tempo of the scene itself so that it played out beautifully as nothing more than a carefully thought out sex scene.

Because it’s really easy to write porn in this day and age. There’s no bloody imagination attached to it. You got a guy that looks like the Rock porking some celebrity look alike (Jennifer Aniston) into the mattress and he’s all beef-caked out while this chick has hugely grossly shaped tits that take on the shapes of a couple of giant cantaloupes while getting reamed out by something the size and width of a fucking sledgehammer.

See how silly that picture is in your mind? It’s just primal sex. Porn sex. It’s all part of a multi-billion dollar industry designed to excite the masses into those drooling fools who pay top dollar to see their fantasies come to life.

But descriptive sex…the kind that takes you on a fucking journey from start to finish and leaves your collective heads in a spin, isn’t porn at all. It simply isn’t. Descriptive sex uses all five of your senses: Your sense of taste, touch, smell, sight, and hearing. When you describe a sensation, when you describe a feeling, a specific set of emotions, the simple act of sex and pleasure and need takes on a whole new dimension.

It ceases to become sex and turns into something else. Something which engages the reader on a purely intimate level. In short ladies and gentlemen, you bond with those characters. You share in their joys and their passions. And most importantly, their love for one another.

You see and read the words that spells out how much each character cares for the other, trusts the other not to bring harm or to allow harm to come to them in these wonderfully descriptive sex scenes.

It’s not fair to charge the author with writing porn when he or she can write so wonderfully and beautifully at the same time and bring to the floor a moment of intimacy which blows the lid off anything a porn flick could possibly offer.

Which is why I’m having trouble understanding some of the users on Watt Pad. Some have charged that my sex scenes in Codename: Velocity are over done, overly descriptive, but porn nonetheless–without even seeing the whole picture. What they see is pussy, cock, dick mixed into the scenes and they automatically think: “It’s porn!”

Kids, porn takes up a limited amount of pages and only serves a singular function. But when you write eight whole chapters of descriptive sex, you’re not writing porn. You’re writing something so passionate and intimate that it defies description.

Oh, it would be easy to write light porn, light sex, or whatever it is that some readers feel should be included in a clean romance novel, but this book of mine is a lesbian romance with its own set of rules and regulations. When you have two teen protagonists in love with one another and they share a bond so tight and so intimate, how can the act of love and sex be considered porn when you write out as a largess visual of epic proportions?

When you take your reading audience on a personal journey–by showing them what true love is like?

So yes…pussy is quite common in a lesbian themed novel. I could’ve also used carpet munchers if not for the fact that I was writing a dystopian fantasy/romance. But pussy seems more appropriate of a word somehow. It’s not pornographic and it’s not the least bit vulgar when you think about it: Two girls sharing the joys of love and passion in ways that would blow the mind in so many different directions.

But it’s still not porn. Not when you write like this. Not when it is so descriptive and encompassing.

So if that really pisses you off and makes you uncomfortable as hell, grow the fuck up and stop being so sheltered and close-minded.

Sex is sex. But porn is just spank bait for the masses. It’s exciting and short-lived. While descriptive–tastefully done–sex stays with you for a lot longer than usual.

It’s what gives certain novels their collective bite. And shows the reader just how mature and articulate the author really is.


Responses

  1. I hear you, sister.

    I think it’s so difficult to write out emotional love-making. It’s much easier to write about kinky sex and shags, and the easiest of all is to write about sex is a distanced way, for instance if you’re character isn’t quite into it.

    For shagging there’s a a lot of words to your disposal and you can just go crazy. And in more detached or distanced/indifferent scene one can use neutral words, but scenes where the characters are madly in love and it’s not really about the act at all, but all the emotions and feelings…oh…that’s a challenge.

    You don’t want to make use of the vulgar vocabulary because it just doesn’t fit. And at the same time you don’t want to drown in rose petals and pink clouds either.

    I definitely have not cracked that code yet. I’m playing around with paragraphs to see what is working, but so far I’m just cringing actually. I got to do way better, somehow. I never expected it to be such a challenge. I actually thought that would be the easy part.

    • Well, I’ve cracked the code to intimate sex and it’s all focused on the relationship aspect. I write long chapters of intimate sex because I’m trying to bring out the best in my characters’ relationship.

      Porn sex is just instant gratification. It only serves as a short-term boost of endorphin’s, but after that…? You’re left empty and hollow inside. But if you can go back and *reach* for the passion, the love, and the intimacy of what sex really represents, then you can extend the shelf-life of your special moments by an arm and a leg.

      I don’t use vulgar language all that much in my scenes. I tend to be very self-conscious when I write these things out. I tend to bond with the moment and with the characters by feeling what they feel. How they react to being pleasured, happy, and what have you.

      But it’s not porn in my view. It just can’t be. As I told someone else today on Facebook, people tend to confuse the issue greatly and are prejudiced on the idea as a whole–which in turn makes them uncomfortable and unreceptive.


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